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  When Love is a Lie: How to Recognize a Counterfeit Relationship Before It Wrecks You By Coach Davie – Tuesday Night Love Talk Notes INTRODUCTION: The Scam That Mirrors Many Modern Relationships In 1925, a conman named Victor Lustig pulled off one of the boldest scams in history—he sold the Eiffel Tower. Yes, you read that right. Lustig forged government documents and invited top Parisian scrap metal dealers to a secret meeting. Claiming the Eiffel Tower was to be demolished due to structural decay, he offered to sell it to the highest bidder—privately. One wealthy dealer took the bait, handed over a fortune, and was too embarrassed to report the crime. Astonishingly, Lustig repeated the same con again on another victim. As I reflected on this, I realized that fake love works the same way . A counterfeit partner can look like a dream, talk like your answered prayer, and appeal to your strongest desires—until you realize you were sold a fantasy. By then, heartbreak and shame make i...

Two Ways to Fall in Love – Jason & Lila's Journey By Coach Davie Not everyone falls in love the same way. Jason and Lila didn’t. They came from different backgrounds, had different personalities, and, like most men and women, they loved differently. How Jason Fell in Love – At First Sight Jason was a visual guy. Always had been. He noticed Lila one Sunday afternoon at a mutual friend’s event. She wasn’t loud, but she stood out. Her style was simple, but graceful. Her smile? Warm and disarming. As she laughed with a group of friends, Jason leaned over and whispered to his friend, “Who is that ?” He didn’t know her name yet, but he already knew he wanted to get closer. Men often fall in love with what they see. It’s not shallow—it’s instinctive. Physical beauty draws attention, but what keeps it is far deeper. Jason couldn’t stop thinking about her. He followed her on Instagram that evening. Sent a DM. She replied. The conversations began. He made it clear he was i...

  The Cost of Not Making Her Feel Secure By Coach Davie || Davecha Moments He never raised his hand against her. Never called her names. Never cheated—at least, not in the physical sense. But he made her question everything. At first, things were sweet. The good morning texts. The late-night calls. The way he’d hold her hand in public, tell her she was beautiful, and speak of the future like it was theirs to build. But slowly… subtly… it all began to shift. He became inconsistent. Some days he’d show up—present, attentive, charming. Other days, he’d be distant. Distracted. Emotionally unavailable, like a locked room she had no key for. She started noticing how he never introduced her as “his girlfriend.” Just… “This is Sarah.” No labels. No clarity. He’d hide his phone like it held secrets she shouldn’t see. Laugh at messages he wouldn’t explain. Follow and comment on other women’s photos, and when she brought it up, he’d say: "You’re overthinking again." "You’re...

  The Day She Stopped Reaching Out David thought he was doing everything right. He came home every evening, paid the bills on time, played with the kids, and never forgot to lock the door at night. From the outside, their marriage looked solid—like a well-built house standing firm through every season. But inside that house, something was slowly crumbling. It started quietly. He didn’t notice the way she paused before speaking, how her eyes lingered a little longer when he was on his phone. He missed the sighs between sentences, the late-night silence when she lay next to him, wide awake. Her name was Anita. And she was lonely. Not the kind of lonely that comes from being alone, but the kind that whispers, “He’s right here, but he’s not really here.” David was physically present, yes. But emotionally? He had checked out. He had stopped asking her how she was really feeling. Stopped noticing the little cues that used to tell him when something was off. Stopped holding space f...

  How to Deal with Toxic Males in Relationships (A Love Talk Reflection) By Coach Davie – Davecha Moments My Personal Reflections I’ve listened to countless women—sisters, daughters in the faith, even wives—cry through confusion, pain, and self-doubt. And too often, the root is the same: toxic male behavior masked as love . As a relationship coach and mentor, I've learned that many people confuse love with control , patience with endurance , and forgiveness with tolerance of harm . Today, I want to speak truth to that confusion and shine a light on a growing issue— how to deal with toxic males in relationships . This isn’t a post about male-bashing—it’s about clarity, healing, and walking in godly wisdom . What Is Toxic Behavior in Men? A toxic man is not simply a man who makes mistakes or struggles with flaws. We all do. What makes a man “toxic” is the consistent pattern of harmful behavior , often coupled with no real effort to change . Some signs of toxicity in relat...

  "When She Finally Understood His Role..." A story every couple needs to hear As a relationship coach and mentor, I’ve walked with many couples through seasons of frustration, misunderstanding, and silent tension. But one story still sticks with me—because it mirrors the unspoken struggles so many homes are facing today. Let me tell you about James and Lydia. The Marriage That Was "Fine"—But Fading When James and Lydia came to me, they weren’t on the verge of divorce. No drama, no scandal, just… distance. Lydia felt emotionally abandoned. James felt misunderstood and tired. They were doing life together—raising kids, managing bills, going to church—but the connection was thinning out. Lydia put it like this: “Coach, he’s a good man. But he’s not present. He doesn’t talk. He doesn’t help as much as I need. I feel like I’m carrying this marriage alone.” When I asked James how he saw things, he said something that stopped me: “I don’t know what else to do, Coach. I w...