Two Ways to Fall in Love – Jason & Lila's Journey

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Two Ways to Fall in Love – Jason & Lila's Journey

By Coach Davie

Not everyone falls in love the same way.

Jason and Lila didn’t.
They came from different backgrounds, had different personalities, and, like most men and women, they loved differently.

How Jason Fell in Love – At First Sight

Jason was a visual guy. Always had been.
He noticed Lila one Sunday afternoon at a mutual friend’s event. She wasn’t loud, but she stood out. Her style was simple, but graceful. Her smile? Warm and disarming.

As she laughed with a group of friends, Jason leaned over and whispered to his friend,
“Who is that?”

He didn’t know her name yet, but he already knew he wanted to get closer.

Men often fall in love with what they see.
It’s not shallow—it’s instinctive. Physical beauty draws attention, but what keeps it is far deeper.

Jason couldn’t stop thinking about her. He followed her on Instagram that evening. Sent a DM. She replied. The conversations began.
He made it clear he was interested. Asked her out respectfully. Paid attention to her stories. Showed up on time.

“He was intentional from day one,” Lila would later say.
“It was like he knew what he wanted and wasn’t afraid to pursue it.”

Because that’s another thing:

Men love in the moment. When they know, they show.
That doesn’t mean it's shallow love—it’s just quicker to rise.

How Lila Fell in Love – Over Time

Lila didn’t fall instantly.

Yes, Jason was attractive. Yes, he made her laugh. Yes, he had good manners.
But for her? That wasn’t enough.

She had loved before—and been hurt.
So, while his looks got her attention, his words and actions had to earn her heart.

She watched for consistency.
Did he remember her stories?
Was he kind when no one was watching?
Did he speak with integrity—even when they disagreed?

Women fall in love with what they hear.
Not just sweet words—but words backed by behavior.
She listens for consistency, emotional safety, and truth.

Weeks passed. Then months.

Lila slowly let her guard down.
When Jason showed up after her father was hospitalized.
When he prayed with her.
When he celebrated her small wins like they were his own.

That’s when her heart whispered: He’s safe. He’s real.
And she leaned in. Fully.

Women love over time.
Trust builds. Respect is tested.
When she feels emotionally safe, she gives her deepest love.

Love Languages: Respect & Cherishing

One day, during a conversation about gender roles, Jason shared:

“I don’t need someone to worship me. I just want to feel respected. That my efforts matter.”

That stuck with Lila. She realized: He thrives when I affirm him.
So she started doing that more intentionally. Speaking life over his goals. Not just correcting, but celebrating his growth.

Jason, in turn, realized Lila didn’t just need romance.
She needed to be cherished. Not just during anniversaries, but in the small, daily gestures.
He began helping with her projects, checking in emotionally, and leaving thoughtful notes.

Men want to feel respected. Women want to feel cherished.
Get this wrong, and love feels frustrating. Get it right, and love becomes a safe place.

The Moral: Understand, Don’t Compare

Jason and Lila didn’t fall in love the same way.
And that’s okay.
Love doesn’t require identical paths. It requires understanding.

  • She didn’t rush his pace.

  • He didn’t pressure her to match his.

Instead, they both learned the rhythm of each other’s heart.

📖 Real-Life Application for Couples & Singles:

  • For men: Don’t just chase beauty. Learn to build emotional connection. Show respect. Be patient with her pace.

  • For women: Pay attention to action over charm. Learn how to communicate respect—it builds him.

  • For couples: Talk about your love languages. Discover how you each fell in love—it’ll teach you how to stay in love.

Love grows when you stop expecting your partner to love like you do—and start learning how they do.



Want more insights? Contact me for bookings, coaching & mentorship. 

WhatsApp: +254 721 166180 | ✉️ Email: davechamoments@gmail.com




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