DaveCha Moments

When Love Becomes a Trap: Toxic Women and How to Rise Above By Coach Davie | DaveCha Moments I’ve sat across from too many men—strong, prayerful, gifted men—who are now just shadows of themselves. Not because they lacked direction. Not because they failed. But because they gave their heart to someone who slowly crushed it… in the name of love. Today’s article is not about bashing women. It’s about exposing toxicity —especially the kind that hides behind beauty, “wifey material” standards, or even spiritual masks. Let me tell you a true story. A young man came to me, completely broken. His girlfriend would insult him in public , control who he talked to, and always made herself the victim when he tried to express his feelings. Every fight ended with him apologizing—even when he wasn’t wrong. The girl was attractive, smart, and even served in church. But behind closed doors, she was emotionally manipulative. This young man kept saying, “Coach, I love her… but I feel like I’m losing mysel...

  When Love is a Lie: How to Recognize a Counterfeit Relationship Before It Wrecks You By Coach Davie – Tuesday Night Love Talk Notes INTRODUCTION: The Scam That Mirrors Many Modern Relationships In 1925, a conman named Victor Lustig pulled off one of the boldest scams in history—he sold the Eiffel Tower. Yes, you read that right. Lustig forged government documents and invited top Parisian scrap metal dealers to a secret meeting. Claiming the Eiffel Tower was to be demolished due to structural decay, he offered to sell it to the highest bidder—privately. One wealthy dealer took the bait, handed over a fortune, and was too embarrassed to report the crime. Astonishingly, Lustig repeated the same con again on another victim. As I reflected on this, I realized that fake love works the same way . A counterfeit partner can look like a dream, talk like your answered prayer, and appeal to your strongest desires—until you realize you were sold a fantasy. By then, heartbreak and shame make i...

Two Ways to Fall in Love – Jason & Lila's Journey By Coach Davie Not everyone falls in love the same way. Jason and Lila didn’t. They came from different backgrounds, had different personalities, and, like most men and women, they loved differently. How Jason Fell in Love – At First Sight Jason was a visual guy. Always had been. He noticed Lila one Sunday afternoon at a mutual friend’s event. She wasn’t loud, but she stood out. Her style was simple, but graceful. Her smile? Warm and disarming. As she laughed with a group of friends, Jason leaned over and whispered to his friend, “Who is that ?” He didn’t know her name yet, but he already knew he wanted to get closer. Men often fall in love with what they see. It’s not shallow—it’s instinctive. Physical beauty draws attention, but what keeps it is far deeper. Jason couldn’t stop thinking about her. He followed her on Instagram that evening. Sent a DM. She replied. The conversations began. He made it clear he was i...

  The Cost of Not Making Her Feel Secure By Coach Davie || Davecha Moments He never raised his hand against her. Never called her names. Never cheated—at least, not in the physical sense. But he made her question everything. At first, things were sweet. The good morning texts. The late-night calls. The way he’d hold her hand in public, tell her she was beautiful, and speak of the future like it was theirs to build. But slowly… subtly… it all began to shift. He became inconsistent. Some days he’d show up—present, attentive, charming. Other days, he’d be distant. Distracted. Emotionally unavailable, like a locked room she had no key for. She started noticing how he never introduced her as “his girlfriend.” Just… “This is Sarah.” No labels. No clarity. He’d hide his phone like it held secrets she shouldn’t see. Laugh at messages he wouldn’t explain. Follow and comment on other women’s photos, and when she brought it up, he’d say: "You’re overthinking again." "You’re...