DaveCha Moments

  The Day She Stopped Reaching Out David thought he was doing everything right. He came home every evening, paid the bills on time, played with the kids, and never forgot to lock the door at night. From the outside, their marriage looked solid—like a well-built house standing firm through every season. But inside that house, something was slowly crumbling. It started quietly. He didn’t notice the way she paused before speaking, how her eyes lingered a little longer when he was on his phone. He missed the sighs between sentences, the late-night silence when she lay next to him, wide awake. Her name was Anita. And she was lonely. Not the kind of lonely that comes from being alone, but the kind that whispers, “He’s right here, but he’s not really here.” David was physically present, yes. But emotionally? He had checked out. He had stopped asking her how she was really feeling. Stopped noticing the little cues that used to tell him when something was off. Stopped holding space f...

  How to Deal with Toxic Males in Relationships (A Love Talk Reflection) By Coach Davie – Davecha Moments My Personal Reflections I’ve listened to countless women—sisters, daughters in the faith, even wives—cry through confusion, pain, and self-doubt. And too often, the root is the same: toxic male behavior masked as love . As a relationship coach and mentor, I've learned that many people confuse love with control , patience with endurance , and forgiveness with tolerance of harm . Today, I want to speak truth to that confusion and shine a light on a growing issue— how to deal with toxic males in relationships . This isn’t a post about male-bashing—it’s about clarity, healing, and walking in godly wisdom . What Is Toxic Behavior in Men? A toxic man is not simply a man who makes mistakes or struggles with flaws. We all do. What makes a man “toxic” is the consistent pattern of harmful behavior , often coupled with no real effort to change . Some signs of toxicity in relat...

  "When She Finally Understood His Role..." A story every couple needs to hear As a relationship coach and mentor, I’ve walked with many couples through seasons of frustration, misunderstanding, and silent tension. But one story still sticks with me—because it mirrors the unspoken struggles so many homes are facing today. Let me tell you about James and Lydia. The Marriage That Was "Fine"—But Fading When James and Lydia came to me, they weren’t on the verge of divorce. No drama, no scandal, just… distance. Lydia felt emotionally abandoned. James felt misunderstood and tired. They were doing life together—raising kids, managing bills, going to church—but the connection was thinning out. Lydia put it like this: “Coach, he’s a good man. But he’s not present. He doesn’t talk. He doesn’t help as much as I need. I feel like I’m carrying this marriage alone.” When I asked James how he saw things, he said something that stopped me: “I don’t know what else to do, Coach. I w...

The Quiet Exit of a Good Man By Coach Davie Lisa didn’t think she was doing anything wrong. She loved Caleb. He was thoughtful, consistent, the kind of man who showed up—not with fancy words, but with steady actions. He wasn’t the loudest in the room, but his presence was calming. He made her feel safe. That should have been enough. But over time, things shifted. It started with the comparisons.      “Why can’t you be more like Tasha’s husband? He takes her on surprise dates.” “Look at how Alex plans ahead—why don’t you think like that?” Caleb never argued back. He just smiled softly. But something in him grew quieter with each word. Then came the moments when he just wanted to be alone. Lisa panicked every time.      “Are you avoiding me? What did I do wrong? Are you upset?” What she didn’t realize was that solitude wasn’t rejection—it was how Caleb recharged. His quiet time was his way of processing the weight of life. But instead of space, he felt press...

The Superpower of Vulnerability: How James and Anita Built a Deeper Love By Coach Davie In a world that often equates strength with silence, James and Anita's story is a breath of fresh, honest air. It’s a testimony to the quiet strength of vulnerability and how emotional transparency can transform a relationship from surface-level affection to soul-deep connection. James, a 34-year-old youth pastor, is the kind of man who listens more than he speaks. He's steady, reserved, and deeply grounded in his faith. Anita, 30, is his vibrant contrast—an expressive, bold creative entrepreneur who is passionate about emotional growth and authenticity. At first glance, their personalities seemed mismatched. But beneath the surface, they were building something profound. The Turning Point: The Conversation That Changed Everything Six months into their dating journey, the cracks began to show. James had a tendency to withdraw after disagreements, while Anita felt increasingly alone, emotiona...

  Wife, You Can Reset Your Heart Toward Your Husband  By Coach Davie  In the first part of this journey, I opened up about how I’ve seen many wives grow into greater harmony with their husbands, not through perfection, but through perspective. Now, let’s continue. These next mindset shifts and actions have transformed real marriages—not in theory, but in everyday life. Stop Mothering Him—Start Respecting Him Let me be real—most husbands don’t want another mother. They want a wife who trusts their decisions , even when they stumble. I once sat with a couple where the wife would correct everything—from how he dressed, how he spoke, to how he drove. He started pulling back. She didn’t realize she was “helping” from a place of control, not trust. Eventually, she stepped back, started asking for his input instead of giving instructions, and his confidence soared. He began showing up more, leading more, even loving better. Respect releases responsibility. Don’t Use Hi...

  How to Reset Your Mind and Heart Toward Your Husband By Coach Davie  Marriage doesn’t come with a user manual—but it definitely comes with seasons, surprises, and silent battles. I’ve had countless conversations with wives who are doing their best to build peaceful homes but still feel misunderstood, emotionally disconnected, or worn out. Some say their husbands have become distant; others say they no longer feel valued. And many admit they are frustrated, stuck in a cycle of unmet expectations. I get it. I’ve walked with these women. I’ve seen how good intentions can sometimes still lead to cold bedrooms and heated arguments. But I’ve also seen something powerful happen when a woman resets her mindset—not because she’s wrong, but because she’s wise enough to grow. Let me share with you what I’ve learned—personally, and as a relationship coach. Men Have Emotions—Even If They Hide Them At first, I used to interpret silence as indifference. But I’ve learned that many m...