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Secrets of Marriage Preparation: When the Lake Meets the Ocean Preparing for Intertribal Marriage With Wisdom and Grace - by Coach Davie Love doesn’t always follow cultural boundaries—and that’s a beautiful thing. But when the lake meets the ocean—when two people from different tribes, languages, and customs come together—it takes more than love. It takes intentional preparation . Here’s what we’ve learned (and what many won’t tell you) about preparing for an intertribal marriage . 1. Understand the Weight of Culture Before You Carry It Together Tribe isn’t just identity—it’s history, rhythm, and expectation. When you marry someone from another culture, you’re not just blending two people—you’re blending two worlds . Ask: How is marriage viewed in their tribe? What roles are expected of a husband or wife? How are elders involved? Understanding doesn't mean agreement on everything—but respect is non-negotiable . 2. Don’t Just Translate Words—Translate Worldviews ...

Secrets of Marriage Preparation   By Coach Davie What No One Tells You (But You Really Need to Know) Getting ready for marriage is more than planning a wedding— it’s preparing for a lifetime . And while love is the foundation, it takes more than emotion to build something that lasts. Here are some of the real secrets to solid marriage preparation—beyond the Pinterest boards and premarital classes. 1. Ask the Hard Questions Early It’s tempting to avoid uncomfortable topics when everything feels romantic. But real preparation means diving into: Money habits and expectations Family planning and parenting styles Conflict resolution styles Spiritual alignment and values Life goals and dreams If you can’t talk about it now, it’ll blow up later. 2. Deal With Your Baggage Before You Pack It Together Marriage won’t heal your unprocessed trauma, childhood wounds, or unresolved bitterness. Bring your whole self to the table— but bring a healed self . Counseling or m...

Enjoying the 9th Marriage Anniversary with the KIDS. ENJOY WATCHING 9 Years of Us — A Simple, Sacred Anniversary at Home This year, we marked 9 years of marriage —not with fireworks or fancy dinners, but with something far more meaningful: a quiet celebration in our home , just the two of us, giving thanks to God. No big guest list. No elaborate plans. Just love, reflection, and gratitude. The Beauty of Keeping It Simple We didn’t need a venue to remind us of what matters. Our living room became sacred space. We sat, talked, laughed, prayed. A simple meal. A slice of cake. Some music. Nothing extravagant—yet everything we needed. Sometimes, the most powerful moments are the ones that aren’t posted, planned, or polished. This was one of those. A Moment to Thank God Looking back on these 9 years, we see God’s fingerprints everywhere: In the quiet answered prayers. In the storms He carried us through. In the joy, growth, and grace we’ve been given—again and again. This ...